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Monday Morning Inspiration
1st and 3rd Monday Mornings Every Month @8:30am
What’s the #1 thing we can do as Christian Women in Business to make our lives and businesses better?
Spend time with God.
As Christian Business Woman we have access to an infinite power to help us achieve whatever challenge or goal set before us. But, we often find ourselves at the mercy of busyness and unable or unwilling to set aside the time necessary to let God infuse his power into our lives.
Well, we know that busyness does not equal business.
So, we kicked off the Monday Morning Inspiration series by exploring the major challenges you face as Christian Business Women.
Amplified Bible (AMP)
38 Now while they were on their way, it occurred that Jesus entered a certain village, and a woman named Martha received and welcomed Him into her house.
39 And she had a sister named Mary, who seated herself at the Lord’s feet and was listening to His teaching.
40 But Martha [overly occupied and too busy] was distracted with much serving; and she came up to Him and said, Lord, is it nothing to You that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me [to lend a hand and do her part along with me]!
41 But the Lord replied to her by saying, Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things;
42 There is need of only one or but a few things. Mary has chosen the good portion [that which is to her advantage], which shall not be taken away from her.
God is expecting us to spend time with him. Sometimes it can be difficult and challenging, but like Mary, doing so gives us a great advantage.
So what get’s in our way of spending quality time with God?
- Not sure how to spend time with God. What do I read? How do I get in his presence? Where should I spend time with God? I’ve been there.
Cindy Woods, author of the Frazzled Female recommends we create a rendezvous place for you and God. It should be a comfortable and relaxing place. But as Cindy points out, don’t make it too relaxing or you’ll fall asleep. J Bring your bible a highlighter and a pen for journaling or taking notes.
We have our part to do but it’s important to trust God in the doing.
Here are four practical ways I breakthrough my busyness to tap into my power source
- Pick up your bible and start reading
- Work through a bible study – Online bible studies like this one are a good place to start http://www.biblestudytools.com/
- Create a S.O.A.P Journal: Create your own personal daily devotion. (Scriptures and Journal, Scripture, Observation, Application, Prayer) Download a journal template to get you started.
- Ask the Holy Spirit to help you: It’s okay to ask God for help.
Until our next Monday Morning meeting, be inspired and take great care of YOU!
I know “self-care” isn’t as sexy as say “revealing the secrets to getting a windfall of clients and cash”. However, success is not always about just the money. There are a whole lot of well to do people who are sick and miserable in mind, body and spirit because they neglect the most important element of their success…themselves!
How are you minding the business of you?
There are 3 main areas where your personal health affect your ability to create wealth and legacy in your life…
As entrepreneurs, our mind is our biggest asset. The solutions that help we use to improve the lives of others, actually start between our own ears. So, we must protect our mind at all costs. That means being careful of what we watch, what we read, and what we listen to.
Questions to ask yourself:
- What things can I do to nurture and nourish my mind?
- Is what I’m watching, reading, or listening to positive and nuturing or negative and dis-empowering?
Taking care of our bodies seems to fall way to the bottom of our priority list. Even when it’s at the top of the list (like at the beginning of the New Year or various other dieting occassions), we tend to be too flexible allowing other stuff to get in our way. You know stuff like, “I don’t have enough time” , ”I’ll do it later”, “I don’t feel like it”, “I like red velvet cake and I WANT SOME NOW!!”.
Questions to ask yourself:
- What will happen to my business if my health failed?
- What things can I do to make sure I honor my body?
What happens when you are depressed, worried, angry, fearful…etc? We experience a storm of emotions everyday and I will stretch to say that the bulk of them are negative. That is why it is important for us to make an extra effort to feed our spirit with positive words, thoughts and motivators that uplift us in our journey. Find the source of positive energy that fuels you and put it into your daily or (at the very least) your weekly routine. When your spirits are high, it drives you to be your best self, productive and ultimately profitable.
Questions to ask yourself:
- What things can I do to increase the health of my spirit?
- How will I feed my spirit today?
It almost seems elementary to discuss the importance to taking care of ourselves.But, it is perhaps one of the most common barriers to success. As children we worked hard to please our parents, teachers, family members and friends. As adults, we simply add on our spouse, children, bosses, co-workers, clients, etc. You can quickly see how our own needs can drown in this environment.
When we sacrifice our values to become a “people pleaser” it effects the clarity of our mind, health of our body and peace of our spirit adversely. Be mindful of how you allow others to dictate everything you do. You have the right to set boundaries without guilt. Making yourself a priority will make you a better mom, wife, businesswoman, employee, boss or whatever role you perform.
Until next time remember to…
Take Great Care of You!
~Coach Anita K
There are treasures hidden inside every one of us. But often, it’s easier to find the greatness in others than in ourselves.
A big “a-ha” moment for me (early on) was when my coach at that time shared with me that “When you admire someone, the same qualities that attract you to them are also inside of you”. That was a transformational moment for me and a pearl of wisdom I share with my clients.
The greatness and legacy of the ‘Sheroes’ that have inspired me, serve as a mirror to my own power. This has allowed me to unlock the value inside me and use it to help others find the hidden treasure inside of them.
In the spirit of International Women’s History Month, I wanted to take time to highlight some women I admire. Their lessons in strength, perseverance and hard work downloaded into me through their examples, have guided me throughout my life and business.
1. My mom: I’d have to start my list highlighting my admiration for my mother. She has been through breast Cancer TWICE and has had the best attitude both times. She conquered cancer like a champion. I admire her strength. What I learned from Mom…
Accept what is and don’t worry. My mother is a strong woman and it takes a lot to get her down. I’m guided by her example to stand strong in the face of adversity and don’t sweat the small stuff, so that when the big stuff happens you have a clear mind to fight it and win!
2. Oprah Winfrey: I have always admired her and I wanted to be on her show before she retired. (so glad she has a show on her own network –OWN-, ahh, there’s still hope). I admire her for her perseverance, what she has done, where she’s come from and where she is now as the wealthiest and one of the most influential African American women in the world. What I learned from Oprah…
Don’t put limits on yourself! As a poor colored girl who was abused and grew up in the segregated south, she could have bought into the limits placed on her by her environment. I’m guided by knowing that in spite of what obstacles are around you, if you have the determination and faith in God, there is nothing you can’t do.
3. My Grandmother: Whew! That woman didn’t play. She worked hard as a maid and nanny for very little money. She also raised ten children of her own, while my grandfather worked at a steel mill. As you can imagine, a working mother with ten kids would become a master of discipline and an expert delegator. What I remember most about my grandmother was that she was a woman of God. I remember her being on her knees for what seemed like hours praying. In her house church was NOT an option. What I learned from Grandma…
Faith in God and discipline to work are essential parts of life. I’m guided by her example as I am a strong believer in God, setting standards in my life and rising to the challenge. Of course, this was a lesson she helped me practice while I was young by taking me to church (and Sunday school) plus putting me to work. My cousins and I used to call it bootcamp. It is certainly woven into the fabric of who I am and how I work.
When you examine the things in others that make them your heroes, look closely you’ll find the ‘shero’ in you. As one of my favorite singers, Mariah Carey, says in one of her many number one hits, “There’s a hero if you look inside your heart. You don’t have to be afraid of what you are…. When you feel like hope is gone. Look inside you and be strong. Then you’ll finally see the truth that a hero lies in you”. I love that song; I think it says it all.
My request of you:
Use a journal or piece of paper, take some time to look at the women in your life you admire, use this article as a model and write the things you admire in them . Then, examine how those characteristics have guided you in your own life and career. Find the treasure hidden in you. Please share, I’d love to hear about your ‘shero’.
Until Next Time…
Take Great Care of You
Mary wakes up in the morning with a long list of things to do. She starts breakfast by placing a couple of eggs in a pot to boil, hurries to run her bath water, turns on her computer to read and reply to a couple of emails. While she’s there she decides that she might as well open another browser and pay a couple of bills. Then, she smells something burning and remembers she started boiling eggs.
She shuts off the stove and hears water… Oh My! She runs to find the tub has overflowed and spends the next 30 minutes cleaning up the mess. Now she’s even further behind than she thought.
Can you see yourself in this woman? Add children, getting ready for work or any number of other variables and I am sure it’s like walking through a fun house (which isn’t so fun), and looking in a fun house mirror with all of its distortions.
Sometimes in our quest to squeeze more out of our time, we end up wasting it. Like Mary, we can find ourselves spending precious time fixing the mess we made in our attempt to create unproductive shortcuts.
Here are 3 common misconceptions we have about time and how to fix them to be more effective in how we spend it:
I can control time. We’re all given the same 24 hours a day. You didn’t create it so you can’t do anything with it. You can’t save it, you can’t invest it, or any of those things. Controlling time is all about controlling yourself. Think about it, that is really the only thing you CAN control.
Here’s a better way: Even daylight savings can’t help us if we don’t know how to make the most of every moment. Being disciplined in our own efforts can help us be more productive. We can trick time into giving us more, we just have learn how by managing ourselves to accomplish more with the time we are given. Set a schedule for yourself and discipline yourself to stick to it.
If I work harder I’ll get more done.
When you work harder you end up doing less because now you have totally drained yourself physically, mentally, emotionally.
A lot of times, we push ourselves thinking “Yeah, if I just push myself a little bit more, I’ll get more done”. But, in the long run you find that you get less done because your energy is just not there. Your focus is just not there. When you don’t have focus and you don’t have the mental clarity, physical energy, emotional or mental energy, you end up not doing much of anything. What’s even scarier is that your body can crash and you’ll experience “burnout”. When that happens then you end up spending more time recovering and it takes you longer to get back to work.
Here’s a better way: Don’t try to be superwoman. Keep a steady pace and don’t try to cram everything in at once. Learn how to turn work off and find time to relax and do things you enjoy. Once you restore and replenish your energy, you can jump back in. You will be amazed at how much better you’ll feel and how much more you can accomplish.
And, now the biggie…
I can multi-task to get more done.
Women are for this one, and, with all the things we have on our plate, we do it without thought (or at least try). When you think, “Wow, If I just do a lot of different things at the same time, I’ll get more done”, that’s definitely a misconception. Multi-tasking scatters your energy and you actually end up doing just the opposite. It’s like being the jack of trades and the master of absolutely none. And, you don’t really move yourself forward because your energy is too scattered. Remember, Mary, in the example above? That’s an example of multi-tasking at its worst!!
Here’s a better way: Commit to focus on completing one task at a time. Give yourself deadlines for completing certain tasks before moving on to the next. That way, instead of having a bunch of half completed items, you can feel good knowing a good portion of them are 100% done. Your mind, energy and sanity will thank you for it.
These misconceptions actually cost you more time in the end. So, work smart by incorporating these healthy fixes to managing yourself and spending your time.
Do you have a Funny Story about a Time Shortcut Gone Bad, Like the One at the Beginning of This Article?